Thinking about getting a divorce? Your ball and chain blimp out on you? Your Master and protector not quite as invincible as you thought he was? Well, if you get on the phone and dial up one of thousands of lawyers eager to leech, I mean represent you in a divorce filing you are a complete moron. You might as well pull out your handgun and shoot your kneecap off and you’d probably be better off if you made that choice. And if you have kids you might as well cut it off yourself with a hand saw.
Believe it or not marriage is still a treasured institution. Little girls still dream about meeting Prince Charming and breeding and little boys still fantasize about saving a pretty girl in distress. Marriage is such a treasured institution that even flamboyant, less than sexually exclusive homos want to be married.
But what is marriage? According to the state marriage is a contract easily broken over the flimsiest of “evidence” where the person who broke the contract most often reaps the rewards. As far as every religion on planet earth is concerned marriage is a lifelong commitment that one makes with their partner and God. In it’s purest form marriage is a promise you make to another human being. A promise of a life long commitment no matter if that life is good or bad. By any account other than the state, ending a marriage is a very big deal. It should be noted that the state profits on both ends of the marriage equation.
I remember around 1971 when the divorce craze started really catching steam. The psychological community and the media were happy to promote the narrative that it was worse for children to see their parents arguing than to see them divorced and that children were very resilient and would get used to having divorced parents peacocking their new sex partners very quickly. Once you take the children out of the equation it becomes much easier to consider freedom and the sex carousel. The kids will get over it quickly just like it never happened. And people believed this because the temptation was just too much. It took us 50 years as a nation before we figured out that was bullshit. Maybe we really are stupid Americans.
Today we have generations of people who have grown up or are growing up in a divorced family. Not a single one of them will tell you that they have ever really gotten over it. What they will tell you for the most part is that their parents divorce never stopped being a burden in their lives. Sure some have tried the old “success is the best cure” malarkey but deep down inside it is a pain they suffer for the rest of their lives no matter how old they are or how good or bad their lives turned out. Most of America’s prison population are children of divorced parents. If you’re willing to do this to your own kids you’re a piece of s**t. Oh what you thought I was going to sugar coat that for you?
But what about the fighting?
So what. Boo hoo mom and dad are fighting. You didn’t fight with your brothers and sisters? Parents aren’t Gods. They have the same feeling of frustration and anger as anyone else. So what if they argue. They are teaching you that when it comes to family, there is nothing the family cannot conquer as one. That even when all seems lost family comes together and trudges on. When I was a kid some families, especially Italian or Latino families, had parents who screamed and yelled at each other all the time and they had 10 kids. They couldn’t possibly have hated each other that much.
And what about you idiots thinking about getting divorced?
Nobody walks out of divorce alive. Men often end up penniless and women, especially if they have children, tend to end up if not with monsters, with lessor men than the one they married and kids who resent both the new guy and mom …. and lets not forget dad who everyone hates. Not to mention that at some point the undeniable fact emerges that you just don’t know how to pick em and for the rest of your life you’re not going to be very confident about your own ability to pick a good partner. You failed. You broke a promise you made to everyone. Loser.
Here’s the thing psychologists, the media, and your own divorced parents will never tell you (because they don’t know). In any long term relationship people are going to fall in and out of love with each other. Marriage is about overcoming that not living in a castle and driving an AMG. See that old couple in the park over there? Do you really think they spent the better part of 50 years adoring each other every day? How much noise do they have to make in the bathroom anyway? No they promised to be together through good times and bad …. yes bad, and they kept that promise to each other.
When you are a child you have lots of family members from cousins, to aunts, to grandfathers but it is always understood that your first loyalty is and always must be to your nuclear family. When you marry you create a nuclear family of your own that must come before anything else in the world and come before anything else in the surrounding relations. If you don’t understand that you have no business getting married in the first place. Still, you can fix it by remembering why you fell in love in the first place and remembering that whether you are a man or a woman, your measure is how well your words reflect you actions.
And don’t give me any of that bullshit about how there was nothing you could or can do. As a 2 time loser myself I know that is a load of crap.
